15 December, 2007

I Lost My Peace

Every year, this time of the year, we start thinking about new year resolutions. In our quest for perfection, we are all trying to relate our lives a little closer to a Disney fairy tale. Trying to fix the apparent flaws in our lives like changing hair color, buying quality wardrobes, fixing the car, getting that new cell phone; and sometimes, things that are apparently wrong with this world, like trying to save extincting species, the environment, complaining about global warming and showing resentment for those who destroy the old buildings. But we never show our concerns on fixing the actual problems that can save our souls, like finding the long lost valuable virtue given to us by our beloved Prophet, peace be upon him, called PEACE - a quality that used to be one of the dignified traits of being a Muslim.

But the fact of the matter is that losing peace is not like losing a leg. The disease is apparently not a mole in front of your eyes. So most of the times, we don’t really bother thinking about getting it back, rather, in our search for peace, we try to fix other things that are wrong with the world. But really, if you try to figure out the reason why every thing is so freakin disturbed, you will notice that every thing that is wrong in this world is a reflection of what’s going on inside the hearts and minds of the people who are a part of the world. PEACE is a luxury long lost in man’s quest for MORE. And when there is MORE, peace is NO MORE.

In my search for peace, I established the following:

1) Don’t Spread the Blame: As they say, the hardest part is letting go, not taking part. So when we realize that we can’t have something, we tend to blame it on other people. We start thinking that their existence is the reason for our turmoils. But I believe that everything that happens, happens because god wills it to happen. No one walks away with anyone’s triumphs just because they are smart and clever.

2) Take a Step Forward: Even a giant leap starts with taking a step. When you’re angry at someone, it seems that the wrath would never end. But one should try, if not to forgive, then to forget. Because, the good does not go anywhere, once you let it in, even a little bit, it spreads and clears your mind.

3) Let go: No one is perfect, so learn to make it a habit to look for the good, and ignore the unfavorable. You can’t change everything. So stop caring about those who don’t care about you. Don’t keep harboring bad feelings for others. If something bugs you, express it. Clear it, or forget it.

4) Believe: The most important thing that makes you peaceful in life is FAITH. Believing is everything. So start believing that you deserve good things. Start believing that the sun rises for us everyday so that we can prove to god that we still deserve to go back to where we came from - The HEAVEN. Start believing that this world is not it, there is more. Start believing that God is the true judge of your efforts, and no one else.

5) Take Responsibility: As a third person, try to create an atmosphere to clear misunderstandings for your friends, but, when clearing your own relationships, keep in mind that people don’t always come to help, so take responsibility for your own deeds and stop waiting for fairy god mother for rescue.

6) Fight: To discover your true strength, start facing life's challenges instead of running away. Remember what Mr. Ralph Waldo Emerson said, ‘Peace has its victories, but it takes strong men and women to win them!’ :)

This article is in response to Establishing Peace on Syra Writes.

~ Ibay

13 December, 2007

Remembering The Lion King!

Remember this movie? I used to watch it over and over and over again...:] I think I might be able to recall all the dialogs!

Here are some of the cutest parts of the movie...

Hakuna Matata!

Can You Feel The Love Tonight...

The Hula Song

Lion King II - We Are More Than We Are, We Are One!

10 December, 2007

My Favorite Dedication


To Popeye,

Who is always there when it matters
for big things, and little ones,
Every hour, every moment of every day
I will always love you.

With all my Heart & Soul,

~ Daniell Steel.

The dedication in her book 'Daddy'.

08 December, 2007

Heaven & Hell


Life and Death
Energy and Peace
If I stop today it was fun,
Even for the terrible mistakes that I have made, and would have unmade if I could
Even for the pains that have burned me and scarred my soul,
It was worth it...
For having been allowed to walk where I've walked,
Which was to Hell on Earth,
Heaven on Earth,
Back again, Into, Under, Far in between,
Through it, In it, Over and Above it.

Gia Marie Carangi 1960-1986

An Apple on a Tree

People say that girls are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. Sometimes, boys don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy to get. So the apples up at the top think there's something wrong with them. But the truth is that they just have to wait for the right boy to come along. The one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

I think, that all girls are special. Some of them just choose to be at the top of the tree because they want to know that one person, even if he's not special enough, wise enough, right enough by the definition of society, once climbed a tree for her to be close to her. She wants to know that the right person is right enough to be a part of her future. Isn’t that a memory worth holding on to?

It’s quite possible that the right kind of guys will forget to follow the lead and eventually decide to be with the wrong king of girls. Even then, I would always choose to be at the top of the tree. I know what its like to have the fear of falling and getting hurt. But I also know that the regret of not doing it is a bargain I'd rather not choose to live with.

~ Ibay